Hello dear world creator,
I´ve been meaning to get this idea back up and running! Under the folder Tips, it will be about people who I follow and love what they have to say. I consider important to share things that catch my attention and give the writer the credit they deserve. I will also post tips of my own, however those will be under The Always Believer. Let me scoot over so she can show you her magic.
I present you Kristy from Twist and Sprinkle. (http://www.twistandsprinkle.blogspot.com)
An inspiring write who you can follow everywhere, click the link and enter her great world. She writes cool posts about a bit of everything and loves to share her thoughts with you. The thing we have in common – we are both here if you need to talk!
Please, enjoy and if you like her, follow her along too!
Have a wonderful day!
– The Always Believer
Hey Everyone, I wanted to share a more personal post tonight. So beware that this post may be a little long AND completely based on my personal life ( and might have too many ‘Perks of Being a Wallflower’ GIFs ). Enjoy!
Let me start by saying, if you have been reading my blog for awhile now or if you even read my ‘How to Overcome Your Negative Thoughts’ post then you would know that I have battled with depression this whole year.
Well, I have dealt with depression for my whole life, but for most of my life I have learned how to deal with it in a more natural way and without counseling.
As you can see in all my posts, I strive to be a positive person. I strive to inspire and help others stay positive in all the bad situations we get dealt with in our life.. because let’s be real, life just happens.
I write to all of you in such a positive tone.. & please don’t get me wrong when I say that I ama positive person.
Lately things have changed in my personal life…
As the days went by I felt myself falling back into that deep, dark depression I was in at the beginning of this year.
I feel myself always tired. I feel myself yelling in anger more than I have these past couple of months. I find myself taking more showers then I should ( the one things that calms my nerves down ).
I find myself day dreaming of the life I ‘should have’ had. The one where I went off to college, found what I love to do, partied, fell in and out of love, etc.
I find myself everywhere in my mind but in the present.
I read a lot of blogs, I read a lot of what people think about depression ( at least lately I have ). I have realized that the ones who have never dealt with depression of their own feel like it is just an excuse people make, and the ones who have dealt with it turn to write their story in hopes to help someone who has been dealing with depression as well.
What do I think? I don’t think it is just an excuse. I think we make other excuses about things in our life ( like anyone else ), but depression isn’t an excuse for these people.
Depression is more to me then just not being motivated.
People can say encouraging words to me all day, I can read motivating quotes all day, etc. but most days it doesn’t help.
All I want is that love for life back.
That is all I want when I find myself falling back into depression.
That is what I think people want that are suffering from depression.
So, that brings me to why I feel myself falling back into the arms of depression…
I have spent a lot of time these past couple of months ‘sailing’ through life.
I recently read Rachel’s ( from Tickle Me Sweet ) blog post about ‘shoving all your problems under a carpet’. That is exactly what I have been doing.
ALL my problems, I have abandoned. ALL my relationships, I have abandoned.
I put on a fake smile just so people don’t ask me those three words.. Are you ok?
I haven’t dealt with any of my problems these past couple of months. I have been living this dream that all my problems would fade away and get solved because I have faith in a bigger power than myself.
The type of person I am.. I can’t accept the fact that I can’t control everything in my life ( control freak much?! ). BUT that is the type of person I am. I am the type of person that needs to worry. As horrible as that sounds, I am that type of person that needs to worry. I need to worry because that is the only way I deal with my problems. That is the only way that things don’t blow up in my face.
Yesterday was one of the worst days in my life.
I yelled and said things to the ones I love that I regret with my whole heart.
My emotions took control of me.
I’m crying just now thinking about the evil that was in my heart.
Yesterday, that ‘carpet’ got swept out from under me. I finally had to deal with all my problems and it hurt like a bitch.
I found myself in that dark depression I had been struggling with this whole month.
I finally let it win.
This morning, I didn’t feel any better. I didn’t really expect to.
BUT the thing is that I want to feel better.
That is all we want, the ones who deal with depression.
All we want is that love for life back.
So, tomorrow I want to wake up and fight my depression and kick it back to the curb.
I fought SO hard to fight it earlier this year. I suddeeded. I plan on succeeding again.
I plan on fighting back.
If you have found yourself in the same situation as me then join me. Join me on fighting back at your depression and living the great gift of life, a life that you are supposed to LOVE!
1. Forgive Yourself
I am the only one responsible for everything that is happening in my life right now. I can’t blame it on anyone else but myself. That is the honest truth, all of the things that are blowing up in my face are my OWN fault. I spend so many nights wishing things were different but the truth of the matter is.. that this is life right now. You can’t wish away your problems or think about things that you wish you could change or do differently. To start dealing with my problems I need to forgive myself first. I need to know the things I did were not the right things, forgive myself, and learn from those mistakes.
2. Do The Thing That Calms Your Nerves Down
Like I said above, I have found myself taking more showers than I should be taking. Showers are the one thing that help calm my nerves. It helps me focus on the good things in my life. It helps me meditate. Do the thing that keeps you calm. The thing that focuses your thoughts back into a positive light. Whatever it may be.. exercise, reading, writing, etc. DO IT.
3. Keep Up With Your Daily Tasks
This one has been the most important thing this whole month to me. As tired as I feel and as bad as I want to take that nap ( when I shouldn’t ) I try my hardest not to. Especially if you have children like me.. You can NOT let your depression take control of your life. You can’t let it take over where you aren’t even getting things done that benefit your children. You have to keep yourself busy and keep yourself from thinking those negative thoughts.
4. Surround Yourself With Positive People
Do not surround yourself with people who are not going to benefit you in your life. Even on your social media.. delete those negative people. You know who I am talking about, the ones who do nothing but complain. I have like 150 friends on my Facebook now, I used to have around 600. You don’t need any more negativity in your life. Surround yourself with people who help uplift you and motivate you. Keep the positive people in your life.
I came close to giving up. I came close to living an evil life. I was just so angry. I took a step back, evaluated my situation and realized that having an evil heart is not what I wanted. Prayer and/or meditation ( whatever works for you and your beliefs ) is important. Wake up every day, meditate, and think of all the positive things in your life. End your days with meditation and remember all the GOOD from the day. It is so important to always have faith.Stay faithful.
So there are my 5 simple ways that we can fight our depression.
Depression is one of the worst feelings in the world. Every day I wish I never had this, I wish I could finally kick it to the curb.
& maybe if I keep at my list and stay positive I finally CAN bury it.
So join me as I challenge myself with these 5 ways.
Join me on being thankful with Thanksgiving just one day away.
Let’s be thankful for all that we have. Let’s finally deal with those negative things that we have buried too long in a POSITIVE way.
I hope I have helped anyone who needed it.
I know it helped me to write this into a blog post. I apologize for the more personal post.
I have a much happier post about cupcakes coming tomorrow, I promise!
A Little Bit Extra:
Do you have a positive way to deal with your depression? Leave me a comment and let me know! Email me if you ever need to talk, I am always here. You are never alone. xxo
- Fight Off Depression (agapeempowerment.wordpress.com)
- Depression: Ain’t no one got time for that (roshanphilip.wordpress.com)
- 7 Things Parents Should Know about Teenage Depression (doorwaysarizona.com)
- Effective Advice For Depression (kickingdepression.wordpress.com)